75+ First Tinder messages that WORK (2025)

Is your first Tinder message not landing? Time to switch it up. Whether you’re aiming to be funny or flirty, your Tinder opener has to stand out and grab their attention right away.

In this guide, we’ll cover everything from what to say first on Tinder, how to avoid the boring “hi,” and how to message first—whether you’re a guy or girl.

Plus, we’ve got examples of good first messages that are sure to make them laugh or set a flirty tone. Let’s ditch the basics and get you some replies!

And to start, here’s a free little AI first-message generator I created for you:

In this article:

• TextGod AI generator
• What to say first on Tinder
• 15 Great first messages on Tinder (Examples)
• 15 Funny first messages on Tinder (Examples)
• 15 Flirty first messages on Tinder (Examples)
• What to say to a girl on Tinder: 15 Great first messages
• What to say to a guy on Tinder: 15 Great first messages
• 4 Tips to create the perfect first Tinder message
• How to get her to write the first message

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What to say first on Tinder

When it comes to what to say first on Tinder, ditch the lazy “Hey” and go for something that actually grabs attention. The trick? Personalize it. Look closely at their profile—whether it’s a quirky bio line, a cool travel pic, or a random hobby they mention—and use that as your opener.

For example, if they’re holding a bouquet of flowers in their photos, say something like,“So sweet that you got me flowers for our matchiversary!” This shows you’re not just sending the same old line to everyone.

The goal is to show you’ve paid attention, keep it light, and toss in a bit of playful teasing without going overboard. Being unique and putting in some effort makes you stand out from the crowd and sets the stage for a fun, engaging conversation.

Check out this video I made. You’ll discover exactly how to craft the perfect first Tinder message:

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How to say hi on Tinder

Saying “Hi” on Tinder is like showing up to a party and just standing in the corner—forgettable. The problem with “hi” is it’s emotionally flat and shows zero effort. You need to trigger some kind of reaction right away. Whether it’s curiosity, humor, or intrigue, a strong opener gets them interested and eager to respond.

You need to spark some emotion if you want a reply.

Instead of a boring “Hi,” starting with a personalized comment that shows you’re paying attention and that’s way more appealing than a bland greeting

For example,“I’m a sucker for picnics too. But what type of snacks are we talking about? Olives, cheeses, paté???”

Bottom line: you need to stand out immediately. A playful, unique message sparks emotions and sets a fun, engaging tone from the jump.

How to message first on Tinder as a guy

When you message first on Tinder as a guy, you’ve got to step it up. Girls are flooded with messages, so you need to stand out from the start.

Texting as a guy is about setting yourself apart and showing you’re not just another generic swipe.

You need to lead with confidence, make her smile, and give her a reason to reply.

How to message first on Tinder as a girl

When you message first on Tinder as a girl, you’ve already got a bit of an advantage—guys aren’t bombarded with messages like you are. So, the pressure to come up with something creative isn’t as high, but you still want to make it count.

Instead of worrying about standing out, you can be more casual.

Guys appreciate it when you take the lead, so something playful and low-pressure works great.

While guys are hustling to make their opener memorable, as a girl, you can relax a bit and let your personality come through. It’s less about standing out and more about starting a convo that feels natural and engaging.

15 Great first messages on Tinder (Examples)

A good first message on Tinder sets the tone right away. Here are 15 examples of good first messages on Tinder:

• You look like you could beat me at chess. But then lose just to make me feel better.
• If you were stuck in Ikea for the night, what would you do?
• What’s your favorite way to waste time? I need new ideas.
• I’m looking for someone who can keep up with my sarcasm. Are you up for the challenge?
• What song are you currently playing on repeat?
• I was blinded by your profile picture. Guess I’ll have to get to know you by personality alone.
• Be honest, did you get into an argument the last time you went on a road trip with someone?
• I’m not saying I’m Batman, but you haven’t seen me and Batman in the same room, have you?
• If you could time travel, when would you go?
• You look like you hate puns, but would still laugh to protect the other person’s feelings.
• You look like someone who’d help me hide a body. Luckily I only have a heavy carpet for us to leave in the woods.
• Quick! What’s the most embarrassing song on your playlist?
• If you had to live in one season forever, what would it be? Summer gets my vote because ice cream.
• Your smile is contagious. Send help, I haven’t stopped smiling for 5 hours.
• If you could steal one thing from a museum, what would it be? Hypothetically speaking, of course.

15 Funny first messages on Tinder (Examples)

Funny first messages on Tinder are a great way to break the ice and get a laugh right from the start. Humor shows off your personality and makes you memorable.

Here are 15 funny first messages for Tinder:

• Tell me your weirdest talent. I promise mine’s weirder.
• What’s your favorite conspiracy theory? I need a new one to obsess over.
• What’s the last meme you laughed at? I must see it.
• I’m planning to steal a penguin from the zoo and I need a getaway driver. You in?
• Would you rather fight one horse-sized duck or 100 duck-sized horses?
• You look like someone who’d help me hide a body. Luckily I only have a heavy carpet for us to leave in the woods.
• What’s your guilty pleasure TV show?
• Damn gurlll your style is on point. Do you dress yourself or does Rick Owens live in your closet?
• Do you come with subtitles? Because your smile says a thousand words, and I need a translation.
• You look like the kind of person who would adopt a llama just to name it something ridiculous.
• Can we skip the coffee thing and go straight to world domination?
• What’s the last thing you watched on YouTube ? I promise I won’t judge.
• You look like someone who’d enter a 5-hour Escape room by themselves and actually have fun.
• If sarcasm was an Olympic sport, I bet you’d have more gold around your neck than Mister T.
• If you could have a theme song play every time you walked into a room, what would it be?

15 Flirty first messages on Tinder (Examples)

Flirty first messages on Tinder are your chance to grab attention with a bit of charm and fun. Skip the usual and go straight for something that sparks interest, like a playful tease or a cheeky line that shows you’re interested without being over the top.

Here are 15 flirty first messages on Tinder:

• So, are we more of a ‘win the lottery and travel the world’ couple, or a ‘steal a golf cart and escape the police’ duo?
• Let’s be real, who would play us in the Netflix adaptation of our love story?
• I was blinded by the bling in your photos. If I say something dumb, blame it on the temporary vision loss.
• So, you ready for fun banter and one too many lame dad jokes?
• You look like trouble. Good thing I’m not easily scared.
• You’ve got a great smile. Lucky for me, I’m hilarious so I’ll be seeing it a lot.
• You seem fun. Let’s see if you can keep up.
• On a scale of 1 to America, how many guns did you fire after we matched?
• I see you like to run. What are we escaping from? 😉
• You’re such a nerd I love it. I bet you’re the type who brings board games to a party.
• Do you like surprises? Because I’m feeling spontaneous.
• You look like the kind of trouble I’ve been looking for. Like sneaking into a 2nd movie after buying tickets for one.
• Let’s skip the bs. What’s something you wish more people knew about you.
• Can’t lie, lost mad respect for you after you matched me. Didn’t think you’d be into terrible puns and dad jokes
• So, are we more of a ‘hit the jackpot and travel the globe’ type or a ‘steal a golf cart and outrun the cops’ kind of duo?

What to say to a girl on Tinder: 15 Great first messages

When it comes to messaging a girl on Tinder for the first time, you want to strike the perfect balance between interesting and playful.

Here are 15 examples of what to say to a girl with your first Tinder message. Do note some are riskier than others, so use your discretion to find what’s good for the situation.

• Lame pickup line. Boring questions. Some funny shit. Laugh, flirt, tease. Are you in love with me yet?
• If I were a T-rex, I’d try to hold you in my little arms and cry because I couldn’t resist your yummy smell and eat you.
• How’s your Friday night going on a scale from single mug of tea to cocaine orgy?
• Mega important question, you’re having your portrait painted, what’s your backdrop?
• Alright, so what movie title describes your love life best?
• Sunday priorities: exercise, sleep, or aggressive mimosas?
• I don’t usually give away compliments so easily, but you have great taste in men.
• [When she has a pet] Wow you look super cute… and your human is pretty okay too. 😉
• Pain reliever personality: Advil, tequila, or complaining?
• On a scale of 1 to 10, how bad do you think I’d beat you at Mario Kart?
• What’s your spirit animal and why is it probably a golden retriever?
• Do you prefer your tacos soft or hard? Let’s see if we’re compatible.
• Let’s settle this debate: Which is better, burgers or pizza?
• What’s your ultimate Netflix-and-chill movie?
• Do you think a hotdog is a sandwich? I need to know before we take this any further.

What to say to a guy on Tinder: 15 Great first messages

When messaging a guy on Tinder for the first time, you don’t need to overthink it. Guys aren’t swimming in messages like girls are, so a fun opener will definitely grab his attention.

Here are 15 examples of what to say to a guy with your first Tinder message. Go with whatever feels right for you.

• You’re going on a 10 hour flight. What snacks are you bringing?
• Quick—what’s the most ridiculous conspiracy theory you believe in?
• Give me your best pickup line. The worse, the better.
• Hypothetical: We’re stuck in an elevator for hours. What will we be doing for fun?
• If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
• What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve done that you’ll admit to a stranger?
• I don’t want to start this conversation with a lie, so I’ll be honest—I’m really only here for the pizza recommendations.
• Give me your best ‘this one time at band camp’ story.
• Tell me the weirdest fact you know. Bonus points if it’s about dinosaurs.
• What’s the dumbest thing you’ve ever done to impress someone?
• Tell me the most random skill you’ve mastered.
• What’s your go-to karaoke song? And don’t say you’re too shy.
• Tell me three things you’d bring to survive a zombie apocalypse.
• We’re road-tripping across the country. What are we listening to?
• What’s your go-to pizza topping combo? No pressure, but it’s a deal-breaker.

4 Tips to create the perfect first Tinder message

1. Use clickbait in your first message

Clickbait is a great way of starting a conversation on Tinder.

As you can see, this example of a first Tinder message makes women curious.

Apparently, I said something that she wants to know more about.

Then I follow my icebreaker up with a tease because… well teasing is the essence of flirting.

And then I reverse the teasing vibe with a genuine compliment.

To which she replies:

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2. Understand her situation

The best Tinder openers are personalized.

That’s a fact.

You personalize your opener depending on what you see in her photos, bio, or even her name.

Using one’s name to craft a clever joke, seems to be trending. But there’s a catch.

When you match a girl named Jane, and you send her a first Tinder message saying:

Then you can rest assured that she’s facepalming instead of texting back. She’s heard the Tarzan lines one billion times already. And she hates them.

If you’re set on making a name joke, then you’ve got to go next level.

Like this guy on the dating app Hinge:

Not only does he UNDERSTAND her situation.

He’s also creative enough to pull off what other guys couldn’t. Well played, brother.

So always ask yourself:

“Am I being witty and original, or am I repeating the same joke everyone is making?”

3. Use her name in a creative way

Bonus example. The next guy killed it:

Understanding + Creativity = Score.

Want another one? Of course, you want another one!

And you’ll have it:

My hat off to these two clever hombrés.

4. Personalize your message

At the end of the day, there are only two types of first Tinder messages that get the most replies.

1. My Clickbait Opener.
2. Personalized openers.

The second one, goes like this:

1. You see a profile you like.
2. You pick the element that you like best.
3. Send her your awesome text.

Let me give you two examples of this technique at work.

Meet Ariana.

There were many things I liked about Ariana’s profile. And many personalized texts came to mind.

BUT, I know that I’m not the only man to think about Ariana Grande name jokes at this point.

So I don’t take that route. Because if I do, I’m really saying:

“Hey, I think I’m original but I lack the social intelligence to predict other people’s behavior.”

So, I take it one step further, to a place where most men never go.

A good personalized text is almost impossible to ignore.And don’t worry, your message doesn’t need to be as witty as this one.

Here’s another example. Mind you, I blurred everything except what stood out FOR ME. And that’s probably not what will stand out FOR YOU.

Thank god we are different people with different interests.

Now, you may not instantly see what I am pointing at, so I zoomed in for you.

Well if it isn’t 4 DVD’s of Gossip Girl, one of the best shows ever.

(One of the best shows ever if you’re in puberty or if you’ve never really left puberty, like me.)

So I sent her a very simple first message about Gossip Girls and BOY OH BOY… we rambled about Gossip Girl for hours.

All because I looked for something fun to talk about.

How to get her to write the first message

The reason you’re here is because you want first Tinder message examples.

But what if I told you, I have something even better?

What if you didn’t have to be the one starting conversations all the time? What if you could just kick back and relax, as girls sent you the first text?

I can tell you from experience that it feels amazing. Wouldn’t you want to get texts like this?

You’d be surprised how many of your matches hit you up with texts like this if you just… ask them to.

That’s right. Add a simple Call To Action to your profile text. Here’s the one I used:

So simple. Yet so effective.

Will all girls now send you the most interesting openers ever? No.

Will SOME girls send you openers more interesting than a boring “hey?” Yes.

Will you have to open less girls yourself, you lazy bastard? Yes.

What are you waiting for?

Try it out!

Obviously, a first message isn’t enough. When she responds, she won’t be asking you out on a date yet. And that is where you want to end up, right?

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